GET SET !!!

 

On your mark is a time when it seem you are still on the ground, but he who looks closely would see that this person has got something on his mind, get set is a time when no matter what you are doing you must stop and set your eyes on the road, you must let all other thoughts cease and focus on the goal.

Get set, because relationships are not for babes, its for mature minds, its a field of emotional roller coaster but needs the stability of wisdom, and if you are not truly ready, it will be obvious.
Get ready because there would be ups and down, but you should not chicken out.

 Now you that you have taking time to process what went wrong in your last relationship, you have cried, you are getting better, its time to move on, so get set, at this point, your position makes it impossible to look back,  its time to move forward and reach for your dreams so GET SET

BE CONFIDENT: Not being in a relationship is not the end of the world, there are a lot of people who are in a relationship or married yet are not happy or fulfilled, be confident in yourself, as you continue to groom yourself knowing that you are not the problem, be confident that there is someone out there for you, who will be the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh. whom you will give all that you are to.

NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS: a lot of people at a certain stage begin to fret and just want to be in a relationship with just anybody, what would be the essence of all the grooming yourself and trying to get better? let me say it again don't settle for less, its better to be lonely than to be miserable, any potential relationship that has no potential future should be stopped immediately. I know it sounds easy to say, after all, am not the one feeling lonely and alone, yes true, but would you be in a relationship that feels like you are just tolerating the person? I don't think so. I have heard this story a lot of times, of how a lonely person enters a relationship and gets preyed upon, its always obvious such person is desperate and if the other person is not a good person, get ready to be used.


HAVE YOU PRAYED? : The honest truth is Prayer does so much than we know, well if you think prayer is not for you, too bad, because I don't see how praying to God for what you want is a big deal, someone told me: I have prayed about it and am tired of praying about it, I told her, ok will you rather talk to the devil about it, she laughed and said no, so dear, keep praying. Pray for connection to the right person, pray for wisdom and direction, ok don't see it like prayer, just make sure you talk to God about it everyday.

OPEN YOUR EYES: just so you know, your partner might not really look like what you expected at first sight. A lot of people met their partners looking like something else, but they had eyes to see that a little tweak here and there would do it, you need to see some people 4/5 years ago, you will wonder what made the transformation. You need to open your eyes to see what people can be order than what they are presently, a butterfly was once a moth. Maybe you will have to do their cloth shopping with them, maybe you will have to hit the gym together, maybe you will have to teach them a little bit of etiquette, maybe that's why God brought you into their life.



In conclusion, let me also talk to that couple who during the past few months your marriage has been a little rocky and you cant seem to understand what is going on, but you know it is for better for worse, you are not letting go, yes that's exactly the kind of  thought you need, Get set, you might have to schedule a meeting with a counselor or therapist, but you are not going to give up, this is your marriage, your partner, the one you chose, you are not going to turn your back because you know it can be worked out. as you get set, begin to look for someone who is equipped to help you both. Get into a book store and find a book that matches your need.

This is not a 5 step anything to get anything, its just something that you need to put in mind even as you begin to get set for a new phase of your life, after all is done, you will enter your relationship fully equipped to do it right, when you are ready, you wont need anybody to tell, you will know its time to GO.