A lot of young people want to know when is the right time to enter into a relationship? as frequent as that question comes, I really find it hard that they ask, because more often than not, they never heed to the answer that comes. People don't really care about such things, they believe love will find you at any time, any where, with that kind of mindset, it will be hard to say no to love when it does come, don't you think?
I do believe that we don't plan love, that love can actually find you, but my problem is, what about the numerous people who are not ready for love, what happens to them even when like they say, ''love found me''?
Its not about love finding you, the question is are you ready for love? this is not a question of age, but that of maturity, do you have what it takes to start a relationship? dear if you are not ready for the maturity that every relationship requires, tell love, thank you, not now and also tell the bringer of love, No.
The first thing I tell people, especially young ones is that, you just don't enter a relationship anytime you find a suitable person, trust me, you will see many of them, the question is are you ready to be in one?. some people are too young to even be thinking of relationship, others are not emotionally mature, while others are hurting from one emotional pain or breakup and so that puts them in a position where they are not a candidate to be in a relationship.
when you make up your mind about when to be in a relationship and what you want from a relationship, that gives you a focus and ample time for you to prepare. Don't just let love pick you up and put you in a relationship when you are not ready for it, you have the power to make the choices in your life, not some external force you have no power over. for instance if you're not going to get married in the next9 to 10 years, what exactly are you entering a relationship for? is a relationship only for people who wants to get married? you may ask, if you re not thinking of a destination, so why then are you in a relationship? do you just hope to be in a relationship for thrills sake, maybe someone to kiss or touch or just to have sex with? that's the popular idea of what a relationship is all about in this century, but that's the wrong idea, its popular, but its wrong.
When you enter a relationship and you do not have a destination in mind, then its simply for selfish reasons, is that not the reason so many people complain of heart breaks?, most of the heart breaks usually come from people who don't have a clue as to why they are in a relationship. they like the guy/girl and so they feel that's enough reason, at the end of the day, issues arises, someone leaves and what do we have, hurts and pain.
The bible says in the songs of Solomon: do not awaken love till its time, because this man of wisdom knows what he is talking about, there are certain things you need to put into consideration before jumping into a relationship, amongst many are:
1 ARE YOU EMOTIONALLY MATURE?
2 ARE YOU READY TO COMMITT TO THAT PERSON?
3 WHY ARE YOU ENTERING THE RELATIONSHIP?
4 DO YOU SEE A DESTINATION FOR THIS RELATIONSHIP?
5 HAVE YOU PRAYED ABOUT IT?
I do believe that we don't plan love, that love can actually find you, but my problem is, what about the numerous people who are not ready for love, what happens to them even when like they say, ''love found me''?
Its not about love finding you, the question is are you ready for love? this is not a question of age, but that of maturity, do you have what it takes to start a relationship? dear if you are not ready for the maturity that every relationship requires, tell love, thank you, not now and also tell the bringer of love, No.
The first thing I tell people, especially young ones is that, you just don't enter a relationship anytime you find a suitable person, trust me, you will see many of them, the question is are you ready to be in one?. some people are too young to even be thinking of relationship, others are not emotionally mature, while others are hurting from one emotional pain or breakup and so that puts them in a position where they are not a candidate to be in a relationship.
when you make up your mind about when to be in a relationship and what you want from a relationship, that gives you a focus and ample time for you to prepare. Don't just let love pick you up and put you in a relationship when you are not ready for it, you have the power to make the choices in your life, not some external force you have no power over. for instance if you're not going to get married in the next9 to 10 years, what exactly are you entering a relationship for? is a relationship only for people who wants to get married? you may ask, if you re not thinking of a destination, so why then are you in a relationship? do you just hope to be in a relationship for thrills sake, maybe someone to kiss or touch or just to have sex with? that's the popular idea of what a relationship is all about in this century, but that's the wrong idea, its popular, but its wrong.
When you enter a relationship and you do not have a destination in mind, then its simply for selfish reasons, is that not the reason so many people complain of heart breaks?, most of the heart breaks usually come from people who don't have a clue as to why they are in a relationship. they like the guy/girl and so they feel that's enough reason, at the end of the day, issues arises, someone leaves and what do we have, hurts and pain.
The bible says in the songs of Solomon: do not awaken love till its time, because this man of wisdom knows what he is talking about, there are certain things you need to put into consideration before jumping into a relationship, amongst many are:
1 ARE YOU EMOTIONALLY MATURE?
2 ARE YOU READY TO COMMITT TO THAT PERSON?
3 WHY ARE YOU ENTERING THE RELATIONSHIP?
4 DO YOU SEE A DESTINATION FOR THIS RELATIONSHIP?
5 HAVE YOU PRAYED ABOUT IT?
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