There are so
many reasons why people are single and
for some they see it as an issue, maybe you are yet to find the right person or
you can’t date or even marry the person who Is interested in you, while some
are seriously searching and the search seems not to be bringing any result. I know
how it can be when you really wish to be in a relationship or married but you
are not. Am always surprised too when I see people who are good looking and are
mature but seem not to be in a relationship when that's what they really want. I
know how you will begin to think that maybe you have a problem, or there is a
curse over you or something of the sort, while it may not be any of that, you
need to get your mind off searching as hard as that may be and start looking
inward, into you, to see if you are that kind of person you would want to date….let’s
call it ON YOUR MARK
On your mark, you should begin to develop
yourself, am sure you just don’t want to be in a relationship that will last
for few weeks or months, if so, then you will need to begin to equip yourself
with the right tools, those tools that will chisel you to be a better person
and a better partner in your relationship. Building your mind is the best gift
anyone can give himself, on your mark means becoming a better person, that
means you are getting ready for a new phase, the truth is everyone loves good
stuff, and its hard to let go of it, so make yourself a better person.
On your
mark, you should begin to highlight your weaknesses and begin to walk on them, it’s
not our strength that breaks our union, it’s our weakness and therefore we must
know our weakness and begin to find ways to deal with them. What happened in
your past relationships?, what have you learnt from it?, what would you have
loved to do differently?, this is not a time you need to lie to yourself, you
need to be totally honest. My problem with people is that they cry so much to
be in a relationship, neglecting the killer in them that stifles life out of
every relationship, part of becoming a better person is you learning how to
deal and overcome your weakness.
On your
mark, be careful of distractions and pressure, while you are getting ready to
be in a relationship or married, distractions will come, it may come as people
who are not really interested in you for keeps but temporarily, don’t entertain
such, you need to remain focus and let your aim be all you have in mind, also don’t
let anyone put unnecessary pressure on you, it’s your life and I don’t think
they love you more than you do. You will
do well to watch the internal pressure building within you, even as you watch
all your friends happy in their relationships or getting married. When you have
learned how to deal with both internal and external pressure, it will help you
ward off distractions, remember that, you need to manage anything, if it’s not
it, it’s not.
There are lots of things that make
relationships even sweeter, for instance finances, I once heard someone say no
finance no romance, as funny as that may sound, I think things such as finances
play vital role in any relationship/marriage. The hardship faced by lack of
finance can break any union. Apart from finance, being sure you are emotionally
ready is also very important, you can’t be hurting and still dreaming of your
ex and saying you are ready to be in a relationship, dealing with past hurts
and being free from their bag gages is very important too.
The right
person would come and you will find someone who is worth all this preparation, On
your mark, signifies that you are getting ready, never mind that that you are
still on the ground, you might be on the ground, but your eyes is fixed on a
sight, your heart is hinged on a goal. Your last relationship might have left
you broken and devastated, but you will rise up again, don’t be in a haste to
get up, you may get disqualified, so first things first be on your mark.
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